Time for a Bigger Sofa.

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God instructed man to be fruitful and multiply…. Only I have no wife or kids?

Do you feel like you haven’t accomplished every task as a man or woman made in the Image of God? Feelings of Guilt or Shame for not executing that one demand from Father God? “Marry and create a  family”.

Well,  Rather it be of choice or  no wrong doing from you?  Know you are not in control! Our footsteps are led by Father God.  The question is : Do you trust him?

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Please follow me now, and let me teach you  a  word of wisdom from our Father God in Jesus Precious name….

1 Corinthians 7:6 -9

6: But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.

in other words Paul is saying this comes from me and not from Father God.

7: For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

meaning … I wish everyone was single like me.  But I know every man has his own gift from God.  Father God has blessed some to get married and some to stay single.

8: I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.

meaning … the single people whose always been single & the ones whose spouses have departed, I think its a great life to stay single

9: But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

meaning … before you burn up with “lust and emotions”….It’s better to marry and have sex,  as oppose  to staying excited.

Amen..

As you can see….Father God have  many unmarried children.

Join us on the "Couch"  as we explore actual circumstances from real people.  With real life problems.   Solving each conflict one by one and realizing , just who or what we are.  Father God has great parables meant also for our generation.

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Bring it to the Couch.  “Let’s Pray about it”.

I have a situation concerning my best friend. We’ve been friends since grammar school.  We both have married, but our husbands accuse us of having a sexual relationship.  It’s so hurtful.  How do we get them to stop it?

Best answers from the Couch:

Carolyn: Your husbands are trying to make you feel exactly like they’re doing. They are envious of your relationship with each other.  They are afraid to allow your heads to come together for any substantial amount of time.  Which makes one curious as to … Why do the men have such trust issues?

Wanda: Continue to be close and ignore what they are saying.  Especially if it’s not causing any rift in the marriages.  Invite them more than before … to join you.  Soon, it will die down or you four, will  experience some great times together.


 

“Check this video out  … R Rated … Heavy Cursing”. 

https://youtu.be/nCdxigD9SIs

Here’s what the community is saying:

Derrick: My sentiments exactly, why stay and everyone is miserable!


Elaine: I pray this will change her…


Barbara: So embarrassing! JESUS help them!!!!


Elaine: That man is hurt…Don’t see that too much.


Barbara: He acts like he loved her. That’s why the woman that gets him next gone catch hell with him.


Elaine : Nope…He’s about to get a good wife. So many women looking for a man like him.


Charlotte: Naw, he is messed up now. She also need help!


Elaine: Now. Depending on what he believes in; I think he may be finished with black women…but you can tell, he’s ready to have a lasting relationship.


Charlotte: Like you said. It depends on what he believes


Elaine: You can tell he’s been trying to make it work with her. He feels at this point … She’s a hopeless case. Now, he wants to shame her before he leaves.  I don’t know what she’s thinking … Married women aren’t usually this sloppy. That’s normally a side chick’s thing. They all backwards.


Charlotte: If she has been doing the things he says she has, she need individual counseling to determine the root cause of her actions. There is always two sides to the story. Just observing her reactions to his allegations, there may be some abuse going on. He could also use individual counseling. As far as the relationship is concerned, the first thing is to determine if they want to save the marriage? If not, they both need help through the healing process or they will take that baggage over into their next relationships. I am willing to bet that the worst is yet to come!


Elaine: Charlotte I think you’re calling that one in a nutshell. But what I did notice … she whine, but no tears. Which could mean she’s not too afraid. Just going through the routine before he forgives her. I can tell he has put up with a lot from her. She sure…just like a female … when it’s reversed … He’s not going anywhere.


Charlotte: It would be hard for me to determine that. First of all people react differently under pressure. For him to go to the extreme of airing their dirty laundry for the world to see is either desperation for help or an audition for a movie role.


Elaine: Charlotte when he says … She did it before. Now. She has traveled here to do it to me again. Then he says … I’m only doing this to show you, what you’re getting before I leave. She seem to play the innocent role who don’t understand and variable. But look in her eyes when he puts the camera in her face. She is not frighten. The eyes don’t lie. They are the windows to the soul.  She’s afraid of losing her meal ticket. He even tells her what her daddy said … and how, she’s going to hell if she doesn’t stop.


Charlotte: Well. I only here what he is saying. She is not allowed to speak. Regardless to whose fault it is to publically humiliate and verbally abuse her like that speaks volumes to me regarding his character. Two wrongs don’t make a right and it certainly does not make him a Man.


Elaine: That’s true. But, I really hope this is where it ends.


Barbara: Dr Elaine  & Dr Charlotte  he’s very upset @ her bcuz he knows of the trash on the chat lines. She may have did it thinking he’d never find out.BT y’all know if u can’t find food u can find sex! I am a witness ppl come from different states looking for new sex. Booty,sex,drugs.chat a min & boom! Here you come all the way from another state!! BT the way she put her hands up shows there’s abuse. That’s the old” I’m not sure where u gone hit my face guard”. I think if it’s not ova it should cuz she won’t b able to make a move without him tripping.


Charlotte: Let me just say this. My position is not to judge who is right or wrong or if she did what he said. I don’t take his side or her side. What I see is a dysfunctional relationship in need of either restoration or total elimination which is based on the amount of damage and if the couple are willing to make it work. I work for a third party. Not the husband or the wife. I only see troubled souls.


Elaine: Barbara I don’t think he abuses her. She’s just embarrassed with him putting her on blast. He may have been slapping on her in the past. I just don’t read that in his spirit. He’s very angry, yes. But seems more to me like he’s looking for his last options to stop her. What he’s trying to do is, shame her before the guy.


Charlotte: I’m not saying what she did was right. But video speaks for itself. He just verbally abused her openly. How can you say you don’t believe he abuse her?


Elaine: She was on the internet when she got caught openly. To me, its fair game. Now I admit… he did do a lot of cursing. But if everybody was considered abusive, who curses when they get angry with a spouse…. then I’m guilty of being abusive to mine.


Charlotte: What I do know is people get upset when you treat dogs like that. Sometimes when you truly love someone you have to have the strength to walk away. It is obvious that he has been hurt. If she has a history of hurting him and he continue to allow it then he clearly has deep rooted issues as well.


Elaine: He puts me in the mind of a God fearing man. See. When you mad, the real you come out. He’s not saying I’m gone beat yo ass.  As a matter of fact…He said he was packing and she crying begging him not to go.  So he did this show, for the dude .  He start explaining to her how the subject of sex… causes trouble.  Not to mention the difference in friends of married people.  That’s not abuse to me.  More like tough love.  Teaching his wife because he’s not leaving. He still believe in her.  Telling her Father God will stop her.  She  has just disappointed him…Maybe for the last time.


Charlotte: In my personal opinion. It is a unhealthy relationship and could eventually lead to someone being physically hurt without some professional intervention. Sometimes people can get so use to walking sideways until it becomes the norm for them. They learn to live with the pain.it actually becomes a part of their life.


 Elaine: Yep Charlotte: Very unhealthy relationship… In fact the Bible calls it … unequally yoked. Apparently she wasn’t serious about her vows. Lots of people get married for the wrong reasons. Surely she don’t love him, not as a husband. Sometimes it just takes longer for the other person to face it.


Charlotte: Well, the last thing I can do is say what they think or are trying to do without talking to them myself. Like it’s not about what I think anyway. It’s about two individuals who are clearly in trouble waters.  Rather they get back together or not. People should learn how to communicate like rational adults and not animals. If he is a God fearing man. I don’t know what God he is fearing? Surely not the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. Because I don’t remember anything in the word of God supporting the way he’s treated her in public. Again I’m not saying she was right. Sounds like they both contributed to the big ball on confusion.


Elaine: None of what we say is set in stone. But he did put it out there for us to discuss it…  Hopefully it will help someone. As a matter of fact, it’s several people who uses that glide. My husband do…now that I think about it.  Maybe I better go see where he’s been gliding too.  Hope he wasn’t talking to my man…Bye


I left my wife for a younger woman, now I’m living like a prisoner’- Man shares his story

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Could this be their end?

My name is Sandra and I would like to bring something to the Couch. I subscribe to a reality show on YouTube called “The Nive Nulls” which currently has over 350.000 viewers.  It’s about an interracial married couple who has a beautiful relationship with Jesus Christ. Recently the husband, Austin Null was caught on the internet showing his genital and master bating.    Which he is now asking forgiveness from his wife.  But his acts has caused the Null’s to lose subscribers.  Can they recover from this? What does the Couch think?


Here are some videos to  get the Couch caught up…

Sorry …Tali begun to receive threats …She removed  the video.  0000000tali

(New Up-date on Tali)https://www.directsecretstomatchmaking.com/time-for-a-bigger-sofa/get-caught-up-on-the-austin-null-scandal

https://youtu.be/oLNxv0zK27E

 

Well Sandra.   I’ve taken it to the Couch … Give me 48 hours to select reputable responses.

Check out the Interviews with “Austin’s Alleged Mistress” CLICK HERE

This is what the Couch thought….

Iris : My opinion is within their marriage yes, they can recover. If their marriage is built on God’s foundation and they are living their lives to please God then yes they will recover. If you are asking about them getting subscribers back probably not so much. People judge harshly. Therefore once a person have a perception of another person regardless of them wanting or trying to change that perception it will always be in the back of that person’s mind. He will always be judged on his action. But recovering within their marriage is what’s most important. He has to ask God for forgiveness. He has to ask his wife for forgiveness. Most of all he has to forgive himself. He has to understand how his actions have affected his marriage and they will start the healing process from there. They can recover from anything with God.


Charlotte: I believe that if their marriage is built on God’s foundation and they are living their lives to please God, the marriage will survive. All things are possible with God. However, there are consequences to our actions. If they are truly Children of God, the husband knows he is dealing with a stronghold (sexual addiction) and need deliverance that only God can provide. Sure the husband asking forgiveness from God, his wife and forgiving himself would be a start, but I would have to questions … such as; how long has he been engaging in the acts, how long has the wife known about it, has the couple sought wise counseling(Biblical). Because until the addiction is dealt with, they are sitting targets for the enemy who comes to steal, kill, and destroy!


Godiva Jai ++++WITHIN YOUR MARRIAGE WORK IT OUT IF YOU CAN… BUT YOU TUBE… NO RECOVERY… GET OFF++++


Elaine: Here’s my take toward the whole issue. Now this will sound strange to some and many of you will call me dumb.  But, it’s how I feel.   I think the only thing Austin Null is guilty of is … Bringing a big fat fantasy to life.

Matthew 7:5 says: “Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.”      

Who can say they have never been guilty of fantasizing? Having a choice as a married woman; I would rather deal with an internet affair versus a physical one.  So what do I say?  Get rid of the internet & get rid of the affair?  In a sense yes.    Satan tried to ruin this family.  But as you see, Father God intertwined and brought it to the surface before it could go any farther.  See.  When you are a child of God, you give up your choice of intervention.  After all that’s who get the credit in the end. The Nulls are used on a multimedia Platform  created by Father God. Never forget … All blessings comes from him.   

I’m not saying that Austin is right in what he did, but he can be used. Not only by Father God or Satan but also “His Peers”.  Austin was married at a very young age and started a big family rather quickly.  At some point you think about what you may have missed. I know because I’ve been there.  Believe it or not it’s not what you’ve missed, but what others tell you, you’ve missed.  Peers can work on a mind.  So people before we throw Austin under the bus …Let’s focus on our own issues then … what he did. Austin is a human online all day talking to millions of people.  This could happen to any of us.  Difference.  Austin got called out.


 

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