Alright fellas, we didn’t forget about you either. Come have your questions or curiosities answered right here. At least hear an opinion anyway. Perhaps if you knew more about the ladies, you might progress to more sound decisions. Now, to you men that don’t do, a lot of talking…”Which is the majority of you”. Come chat with us … on the Sofa.
Tell us the Issue
My lady wants to get married, but… were young and suffer a sexual problem already. When I say young… I mean in our twenties. She says she loves me and I do her. Sometimes we run real smooth… but that’s mostly when I initiate. Other times she can lose passion right in the center of intercourse. Can somebody help me here?
What the Couch declared:
We took a survey from 10 different women between the ages of 20-29 and came up with three possible reasons.
The first possibility was from a 23 year old, who believes your lady is afraid and sees sex … as more of a chore. She suggests being gentle and tolerant with your mate, which will make a big difference in the romance department.
The second possible reason comes from a 25 year old. She thinks maybe your lady has never had an Orgasm. She suggests more “four play” using oils, toys & much sex talk.
Now the last reason comes from a 28 year old. She experienced this problem behind “birth control”. The birth control was injected every so often. This caused her hormones to go dormant. Keeping her sexual desires at bay.
Well, this is what the couch came up with. Let’s hope it will help solve your problem. If not, come back and we’ll talk some more. Good Luck from the “Couch”.
Okay Couch…Here’s our next Challenge.
My name is David I’m a 55 year old truck driver. Can you please tell me what the deal is with my wife? When I’m away on the road & talk to her on the cell phone, she’s always telling me how much she loves me, can’t wait until I return and how much she misses me. But the moment I come home, she barely speaks to me, acts as though she doesn’t like me and hardly ever let me touch her. She also accuses me of other women on the road. What in the world is wrong with her?
Elaine: Thanks David. I’m taking it to the Sofa. Give me 48 hrs.
Peculiar answers from the Couch….
Godiva Jai ++++ SHE MIGHT FEEL LIKE SHE HAS WAITED SO LONG TO SEE HIM SHE READY FOR THE CHASE…. NOW IF SHE IS OUT RIGHT DISGUSTED WITH HIM AND TRULY ACCUSING HIM OF CHEATING… THEN SHE IS THE CHEATER++++
Elaine: But why would she lead him on like that? She sounds mentally ill to me.
Godiva Jai ++++ BEING DUMB++++
Beverly: Probably because when he comes home he is empty handed NOT smiling and not acting like he glad to be home. She probably put on something she thinks is sexy and he don’t compliment her or tell her the house looks good or he like her hair or food. Something like that can be a groove crusher. She be trying to make love to his mind before he gets home and as soon as he walks through the door with that look on his face … on top of the statement above, all bets are OFF.
Elaine: I love this answer Beverly. You could be right. Make sense.
Sevetra: Emotionally she might miss and love him… But she’s probably sleeping with someone else.
Sandra: He’s her meal ticket. She’s nice so he will come back.
Elaine: You know Sevetra, people can be in love with someone’s mind but not their body… Something to think about.
Sevetra :Hmmmm I can understand that.
Elaine: She may be afraid to express her feelings in person. But more open on the cell. I just never heard of this type of relationship before. This really calls for more questioning. Too one sided.
Godiva Jai ++++ SHE IS SPREADING HER LEGS TO THE OTHER… TRYING TO KEEP A ROOF OVER HER HEAD WITH THE TRUCK DRIVER. BECAUSE 90% OF THE TIME THE ONE THEY CHEATING WITH IS BROKE. STILL LIVING AT HOME AND HAVE A LOT OF TIME ON THEIR HANDS…..HEY…HEY WAIT A MINUTE THAT SOUNDS LIKE ME….. JK…JK LOL++++
Elaine: Lol @ Godiva Jai
Janice: Sounds like guilt to me
Elaine: I thought about that also Janice…But why get his hopes up?
Sevetra: Because she has bills! Lol
Janice: Right Sevetra!!!
Janice: Making him think all is well at home but once he gets home, reality hits her and she can’t hide her true feelings…
Elaine: This sounds kind of like a menopause thing to me….But I don’t know her age.
Janice: Could be…for some reason she could be disgusted with him. When my ex disgusted me I never lead him on. He knew right up front. I treated him the way this woman treated her husband when he came home.
Charlotte : Why don’t he ask his wife? Wouldn’t touch it with a ten feet pole missing too much info.
Janice: Yeah, women don’t usually act that way without a valid reason
Elaine: He says she’s sweet when he’s away…He wants to know if this is normal for women?
Godiva Jai: is he A GAY TRUCK DRIVER… I’M JUST ASKING
Elaine: Godiva Jai he said she don’t want to be touched most times. Which I guess could say he’s not gay.
Godiva Jai: is she gay…lol
Elaine: Hey Godiva Jai now you may have something there…
Godiva Jai: ++++IS HIS PENIS TO BIG++++
Elaine: Don’t know …Maybe he will respond when he see the answers.
Quintin: She feeling guilty of any wrong doing when he get home. To the point she can’t look at him knowing he’s a good man.
Elaine: Hey Quintin…Thanks for a man point of view…Have you ever had a woman to do you like this ?
Quintin : Lol yep
Barbara: Maybe she misses him while he’s on the road true enough. BT when he gets home he has to keep the foreplay going! In her mind it could be a game that has to be completed? Continue to ride it out! On the ride to the house call let her know baby I’m on the way to you, & only you! That’s going to take her mind off thinking there’s another women on his mind, or in his life right now. Stop & buy some wine come thru the door wooing her the same way you did on the road. Make sure your breath is fresh lol … kiss her then let her know how you couldn’t get her off your mind ,& how much you do love her.(come on ladies) if your man can convince u how much he loves you & appreciates you. Hell he wins! Now take her to the shower with you!!!! One of the biggest turn on in my world is to be bathed by my man! What???? From there you run the rest of the night!!!! Hope everyone on the couch is @ the age of maturity? Because this could get deep. You also have to remember that even though he told his age, he never said how old she was? If you’re somewhat older your libido’s not going to work the way it did @ say 20? What turned her on when you were on the road could have died down before he made it to her. Just lite her up again that’s all she needs!!!!
Iris : My advice is he should make the effort to date her again. He’s on the road a lot. He should make it all about her when he comes home. Take her out for a nice dinner. Give her romance not just attention. Yes he work hard on his job but he has to work harder in his marriage. He needs to assure her that he is not cheating on the road. Bring back what brought them together in the first place. Be IN LOVE with her. And show her that.
Godiva Jai ++++YEAH I GET ALL OF THAT… BUT A NORMAL PERSON WOULD AT LEAST KISS AND HUG THEIR MAN WHEN THEY ARE GONE FOR SO LONG…. SHE JUST SHOW OUT…. SHE KNEW WHEN SHE GOT WITH A TRUCK DRIVER AND MARRIED A TRUCK DRIVER… THAT BEING ON THE ROAD BRINGS THE BREAD TO HER BUTTER….. SO DON’T ACT BRAND NEW NOW… WHY DON’T SHE GO ON THE ROAD WITH HIM SOMETIMES…. YOU SEE WOMEN IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO AND ONE TO START THE MUSIC… AND IF SHE WHOLEHEARTEDLY BELIEVE HE IS CHEATING SHE WOULD TAKE THOSE STEPS… BUT SHE HAVEN’T GOT THE TIME BECAUSE SOMEBODY ELSE DO….. IF YOU’RE ON THE PHONE TALKING ABOUT IT… BE ABOUT IT…… NEVER BE A DOOR STOPPER WHEN YOU’RE MAN/HUSBAND COME HOME….. ALWAYS BE THE KEY TO HIS HEART… IJS++++
Beverly: He probably mean as hell. I’m telling you. No one wants to kiss a rattlesnake.
Ervin N Lo’s Daughter: She could love him and not be cheating at all and she may want things to be better between them and she could actually miss him while he’s gone but he could be a mentally and emotionally abusive person who she wants to change but every time he comes back home he plays the same mind games with her which would be an instant turn off. Remember the man is the one who sent the question in but there’s two sides to every story and I bet if we talk to the woman she would give us a different version of that story.
Elaine: Thank you ladies & Sir…Very good answers. At least we’ll give him something to think about. from the “Couch”.
Help is needed from … The Couch
Here’s the story….
Joe is 20 his girlfriend is 21. They have known one another a total of six months. The first two months of their relationship was more of a physical attraction. His girlfriend moved shortly after that some … 300 miles away. During Christmas time she made plans to surprise Joe, and introduce him with an engagement ring, to ask his hand in marriage. Unfortunately, they got their days crossed and Joe missed her as well as the proposal. Joe says that he is very much in love with her. But is unsure if he should marry. His precise words are “What do the Sofa think he should do”?
Anybody got any answers for Joe?
Couch sure had something to say…
Jazmin: Tell him they should give it a little more time! Keep it simple! … 6 months could mean just lots of lust…not love. Especially if it was a physical attraction at first.
Iris: Oh wow!! This is a little bit of a challenge. Well-being that they started off being very sexually active in the first two months I think he should go with his first thought. If he is not ready for marriage then he should follow his intuition and pump the brakes just a little. See men have an intuition too they ignore it all the time because of the sex being so good. 6 months is not a lot of time especially if you are unsure. Now there are couples that have met and got married in 3 or maybe 6 months after meeting and are happily together 10 to 20 years later but that is rare. My advice is that he take her on a nice cozy date somewhere and they should talk about what each other expects from the relationship. This way they are on the same page because to me it seems she is a few chapters ahead of him. Communication is the key to a great relationship.
Beverly: Always follow your first mind Joe. If something is telling you to wait then you probably should, besides what’s the rush?
Janice: Smart move Joe! If you’re having doubts, although you’re in love, wait! You might want to ask her, what’s the rush?
Charlotte : Before considering marriage the two should seek premarital counseling. They are both very young and should be informed of what marriage entails. The Good and the bad. Before considering.
Godiva Jai: ITS FUNNY THE ADVICE WE GIVE TO OTHER PEOPLE WE DON’T TAKE IT OURSELVES…..TELL JOE IF HIS HEART IS FLOWING WITH DOUBT’S DON’T DO IT… WHEN YOU KNOW THAT IS THE RIGHT PERSON FOR YOU… YOUR LOVE WILL FLOW NATURALLY++++
Elaine: Thank you ladies for your Feedback. Joe is more than grateful for all your help … And as always … Thank you from TMC.
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